Have you ever said to your child, your husband or even yourself - You are PERFECT just the way you are.
I remember saying it to my children and my Mum and Dad a little while ago. In each case a contented smile came over their face. You could almost see their bodies relaxing. Each of them looked back at me and I felt they were saying thank you for seeing me for who I am.
These days it seems the aim of the game is to ensure that our children fit into the system. Achieving good marks at school, competing at sports. Each child wanting to be better than another child. In guiding our children we seem to have lost connection with the fact that each human being, every child, has a unique set of qualities that make up who they are.
I believe life is not about competing with someone else. It is about acknowledging who we are and the things we love doing. Expressing ourselves in the best way we know how. Learning from our experiences. Evolving and growing, every day, every week, every year. It is about challenging ourself, within, to do our best. And acknowledging others for doing the same.
Imagine a world where we no longer compare ourselves. Where everyone celebrates their unique gifts. Where each person loves their unique qualities, even though they are a little different to what others have to offer.
When I imagine a world like this. I imagine a peaceful world. One where people are celebrated for being themselves.
So as you go about your day remember to say:
* You are perfect JUST the way you are*
* Say it to your children *
Take a break from the all the things that need doing. Sit on a step beside them. Look into their eyes and
just say it.
* Say it in your mind *
When you are walking past someone in the street.
* Say it to your family and friends *
Often we say I love you. Maybe you can say 'You are Perfect just the way you are' instead.
* Say it in an argument *
OK there is someone that you don't get on with or you don't understand. Try saying it in your mind or out
loud to them too.
* Say it to yourself *
And most importantly, look in the mirror and say it to yourself. When I do it my body goes tingly all over and I feel content and happy within.
Written by: Karin de Vos October 2007
